Stop Asking Why ~ Instead Ask What

 By Lynda Lamp
Why is a Rabbit Hole

Today as the world absorbed news of the worst mass shooting in America there was a common theme woven through the coverage.

Why? Why did the shooter do what he did?

And why did he have so many guns and the kind of automatic weapons?

Furthermore, why did this person get killed, or that person?

Why, why, why?

Asking why is like jumping into a rabbit hole.

Rabbit hole: used to refer to a bizarre, confusing, or nonsensical situation or environment, typically one from which it is difficult to extricate oneself.

Why Doesn’t Matter

Why something happens doesn’t matter.  I know, it sounds like crazy talk, but stick with me. It’s worth it. You may even find life a little easier to deal with when you finish.

When we focus on the “why” we are looking to the past for answers. But in the purest sense, we know that the only thing that exists is the moment we are experiencing.

There is a natural curiosity that draws us in and makes us want to “understand” why. But this curiosity comes from our ego and our sense of control and that curiosity can get us into trouble.

Curiosity Killed The Cat

My mother used to remind me of this on a regular basis: Curiosity killed the cat. Meaning, don’t go looking or exploring where you don’t belong, or you will get yourself into terrible trouble. Not just trouble, but the killing kind. At a minimum, it will be painful.

In the case of understanding “why” I say it because by getting sucked into trying to figure out “why” you just perpetuate the pain, you don’t get relief.

By looking to the past, we look for someone to blame. Someone passed a law or didn’t pass a law. Or someone didn’t stand up to the NRA. Maybe someone could have done something different, but what good does knowing that now do? Looking to place blame is entirely unproductive.

One of our wired responses, when we are attacked, is to fight. So it’s a natural response to want to look for someone to blame. We want to hurt them back. We think we can somehow control things this way, but indeed, we can not.

WHAT Becomes The Critical Question

What are you going to do in response? The answer to this question is the only one you need.

The past doesn’t mean squat at this point except to a Historian. Your job as a human in America is to decide what does this event mean to you? What does your heart tell you to do in response?

Then do that. Had we flooded the streets after Sandy Hook perhaps we wouldn’t be here now. We have done nothing. The NRA holds America by its short hairs.

We need to move forward in America in a new way. Making this one change of focusing on what rather than why will significantly shift our focus and consequently the energy behind our actions.

Moving From Hate To Love Is Going To Hurt

The sad fact of life is that this third-dimensional life in human form is painful. Life in a body is painful. But what most people don’t realize is that they make their lives more painful than they need to be just with their choices of thought. We are afraid of the pain; we are afraid of death; we are afraid of the unknown.

In reality, everything is divine, and we are divinity in expression, each of us. Within each of us is the Universe and a direct connection to Souce. And in truth, there is no death; our spirits return to our Original Blessing. This 3-D world is about something else. It’s more than what we “see,” because as we know, what we see is truly an illusion.

Let Go Of Why And Ask What

What do you feel moved to do about guns in America? This issue is no different than all the others Americans face at the moment. We are the most violent modern country on the planet. We also have the highest number of people incarcerated. We are a racist country, much more racist than we admit. Sure we can explain why we are this way, but what difference does it make? We are a country filled with hate and seemingly more hateful as each day passes.

Let’s stop trying to be historians and instead become the creators of the Country and the world that we want.

How about we get to creating what we came into physical form to do:

Create heaven on Earth, Create Peace.

What do you feel called to do to build heaven on earth?

Do that, as long as it is for the higher good of all and moves us forward on a path of non-violence.

Do something.

How many sweet spirits and souls will need to make the sacrifice of life so that we may learn this lesson?

How many?

Do something.

Let not a single new drop of blood be shed.


I am an Author, Speaker, and Life Coach, living in Alaska on the shores of Resurrection Bay, one of the most beautiful places on earth. I am also a mystic, visionary, and pioneering entrepreneur. I want to help to heal our world by bringing us peace through love. Volume I of my book, Walking Through Your Walls was released in August of 2016 and additional volumes are forthcoming. I also founded Angels Rest on Resurrection Bay, LLC, heavenly lodging on the waterfront, AK ANGELS Care, Inc. a way for neighbors to help neighbors, WE LOVE US, 8 Intentions to Create the World that Works For All, and Love BY LIGHT, a way to form Heart or Mindfulness Circles in your community. My latest works involves Insist On Love, a movement to unite people through Intentional Living.

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